Don’t Cry? At least don’t laugh

Once your thoughts get shallow, your feelings will be loosed. You will lose your senses and you start seeing everything as fun. They taught us to laugh, be ourselves, self-confidence, self-indulgence, not care what others say, etc. They made us selfish people. There are many people dying in this World without us know it. Even we know, we don’t care any more. Poverty, starving, killing, dying, pain, etc. as long as we don’t feel them, lets ignore people who have.

What happend to us? Why did we become so indifferent, cruel and lonely? More importantly why did we forget the beauty behind tears? I’ve been watching news and they are people in Syria being killed ruthlessly and I am having a breakfast while  watching news, feeling not enough remorse and I am still able to call myself human.

We cannot take actions any more. We don’t want to disrupt our comfort and we ignore all these happenings in a cold blooded way. Not our actions but our minds are oppressed by media, governments and companies. Everything around us pushes us to self-indulgence state.

Especially, in United States, what I found out so far that people want to label everything as fun. Students don’t will to do things that don’t have any fun. This is what we teach our kids? Fun all the time? We MUST teach them the hardships of the life and how to deal with them as well as helping each other. Otherwise, they find fun within alcohol, drugs and illicit relationships let alone opposite sex but same sex. They should know exactly why we are here. They should know how to take responsibility, and they are responsible for each action they take. We don’t become soil after we die. How come you think this life is so meaningless  as you think we are going to be soil and nothing after death. All these great faculties inside humans, all these perfect and amazing materials around us, you think they are all there for nothing. Do you think all these occurrences in this universe are for nothing? Don’t devalue yourself like this and look through your material opinions and try to see other and real side of everything.

I don’t feel like human anymore. I feel wasted by all these economy, politics, desires, etc.

Why are Muslims so separated?

As a Muslim, I’ve been asking this question for many years, “Why are we so separated?”. We believe in the same God and love and follow the same Prophet (be peace upon Him). Why are blaming each other for different practicing of Islam? Don’t we know that this religion is a religion of peace,repose, brotherhood and tolerance. We know it because this what Prophet Mohammed taught us. He taught us not to kill but love and tolerate, tighten the bonds between Muslim brothers and sisters.

There are many Muslim countries in the World and I don’t think we are really getting along well with each other. There is something which pushes us away from each other and I cannot name it. Power, money, lust or something even deeper than these basic feelings. Let alone other religion followers, we should even first fix the bonds amongst us. It seems we try to justify our way of Islam is correct and ignore the others but we also ignore the words of Prophet Mohammed, “Variations amongst my ummah are hayr (beneficial).” but we rather cast them out and label them “infidels”,”wicked” or “deviants”. Who do we think we are by labeling people like this? We don’t have any rights or permissions to decide whether they are believers or unbelievers. Deciding who is believer or unbeliever belongs to Allah (cc).

Of course, there are some many other factors as well for our disorganization. We forgot our roots. We forgot what made us, our culture, our ancestors and moral values. We turned our faces to West and wanted to be like them even though we were so different. Lets admit, west was suffering in their own World when Muslims were reaching peaks in both science and religious studies. Muslims first invented Algebra, the first step for computer science, etc. and now looking at our current place, I am feeling a great sorrow why we happend to be like this. Poverty, injustice, lack of religious life, war, fight and many other problems are breaking our back bones and we don’t have enough strength to stand up any more. When we have some power to exert, Western governments descend upon us and used up our last strength and never let us move up again. If Muslims rise back again, the balance of current status quo will change and West may lose their power to Muslims again which is obviously undesirable.  Who wants to lose his slaves right?

I am not created to live a happy life all the time. Even though everything goes pretty fine, I should have to feel the pain of others and help them. This should be my sadness and sorrow. I am not here to collect assets as I won’t be able to take them with me to the grave but my good deeds. My good deeds depend on what I do for the sake of Allah. So even Muslims get stronger again, it doesn’t mean they have rights to oppress others and do as they want, we Muslims must only do whatever Allah wants. We must lose ourselves in Allah’s existence. We should be able to cry for the others, even they believe other religions or atheists. We should be able to because we know what they are missing not believing in Allah. The eternal sin of unbelieving. You may ask why it is eternal sin?

Satan, our wicked-side and our human instincts won’t let us be truly devoted to Allah but we should try hard. This is the only way to find true happiness and internal peace.

Turkey, France and Armenia

First of all, I like to thank to Turkiye for its brave and peaceful stance against the latest developments on legislation issue in France about Armenians genocide. And second, France has proved once again that they are not a free and rational country any more but a puppet of  irrational, bigoted politicians and some rich people. And Armenians, you haven’t desired any peace so don’t expect any peace from now on because you don’t deserve it. Your ideas are all ill-biased and don’t have any tenable basis for your genocide sentiment. You very well know how many innocent Turkish people were killed in your bloody hands even thought you were trusted by Ottoman people. But you showed you are unreliable, untrustworthy and I am feeling pity for the people whom trust you in that matter these days.

I am not racist and won’t be racist by any means. By saying country names, I mean people who did what I told above. Of course there are righteous Armenians, Frenchs, etc. out there but they have to rise their voices against these demolishing actions against peace and friendship of these different ethnics.  This genocide bill won’t bring anything beneficiary to indigenous Armenians but some ill-intentioned rich people who try to corrupt  the politicians and authorities to retain their power and wealth. All these efforts are not for innocent Armenians folks but only themselves and you and your nation are only a tool for their aims. Same mentality killed many people back then now killing friendship took so many years to be built in this age.

As a Turkish person, I always pursued peace and mutual benefits of each and every country. As our Vice President Mr. Erdogan apologized  to Dersim folks (it wasn’t a genocide but excessive force), I believe if we carry out a genocide against Armenians, we are humble enough to make another apology any time but the official and legal documents show that we didn’t hold such an event in our history but we know how gruesome some Armenians were by killing innocent women, children and  old people and I am wondering how Armenians will repent of  their these defiled behaviors.

France, such a long history with genocides, colonizations and lies. I wonder whether current France remembers how Ottoman saved their kings with one letter to Spain kingdom? I bet they don’t because they don’t want to. Sarkozy, a person who feels outcast due to increasing popularity of Turkiye and Mr. Erdogan. He loses his power over France’s colonies such as Arab countries and some potential countries after Arab spring. Mr. Erdogan increased his popularity amongst Libya, Yemen, Egypt and many others where Sarkozy expected to be welcomed like Kings and Saviors but he was surprised because all Muslims know how liar and reptile he is. They don’t want to be ruled by Western countries any more, they don’t want to live Western lives but their own old lives in which not power but justice and rights are accounted.

Western knows one thing, power. Even Darwins depends on power of creatures. If you are powerful, you have right to be alive.Justice, human rights come after power. That’s why France, like many other western countries, decided to colonize African countries. They showed these colonized people as savages who need more modern civilizations such as France. Settlers were always right and powerful, natives were poor and primitives and the settlers taught them how to become like them but the natives couldn’t become like them because they were different ground up and they envied their masters life style, wealth and etc. So France never just extorted their natural resources but stole their moral values, their rights and their beliefs, their most important things, their way of life. By doing this, they killed many natives, many many natives, that was a huge number after that you may not even know which number proceeds it.

If France checks into their history, they will see how many bleeding people they left behind. For example, Algeria. Over 1 million Algerians were killed throughout the history of France. French soldiers invaded this peaceful country without any reason, colonized them, taught their religion, language and cultural values and raped their women, killed their kids and elders and utilized their soldiers and got many of them killed in their own wars and they don’t even remember it but I bet Algerians remember it as if it happened last year.

And today, they are giving us human rights lesson, a lesson they failed. A lesson France prepared its content and even they failed with it. I don’t like to compare Ottoman era with France because they were at entirely different levels. Ottoman Empire was an empire of peace, serenity and justice in contrast to France that doesn’t even know what these words mean. That’s why greedy and poor and ferocious crusades from different western countries including France attacked Ottoman lands, because they wanted this wealth, health and human rights albeit they  didn’t have any of those.

France politicians are failing their citizens and it seems they will keep failing them again over time. This is a not end for Turkiye but big abyss for France and its people, because people will start asking why you care Armenian so-called genocide although you carried out even worse history with full of genocide, colonization, etc. Why don’t you face your own fate and history? Why are you using this sensitive and biased and distorted statements for your own politics benefits? France, without answers of all these questions will be remembered as country in which freedom of speech won’t take its place ever again and people’s thoughts are controlled and steered with corrupted politicians and laws.

Thanks France for showing your true identity for our next generations, I believe they will have more goodies to say for you.

– Tarik Guney

Miffed or Angry

Recently, I had to mull over these two feelings inside me. When some one does something I would’t like, do I feel miffed or angry? To me, miffed and offended accordingly stop talking to some one for a while till he apologies is kind of childish reaction. Because I know this won’t solve the problem and each side may wait for an apology and this leads to infinite loop. But if I stop talking to some one, that means there are not goodness any more for me in talking to him. So this is a way to stop continually worsening the situation for both me and him.

I do get angry but I believe I can somehow handle my anger and not put it out with improper behaviors. We are all grown-ups. Some people might think I am offended and ceased talking but this thought is totally misunderstood. I will speak of course but not like before. The relationship with the person offended me takes a whole new level in which talking is considered more formal and decent but distant.

I remember a guy in my previous workplace. Whenever whatever I asked to him, he was always using a mocking way to explain the answers.  This wasn’t the way I liked and I knew I would never change him and impose what’s right. That was the way he was communicating and I didn’t like the way. I didn’t cease talking to him but I ceased asking question to him. I was avoiding his improper side by not doing the actions that temper it.

Am I not helping the people to mend their behaviors?  To warn people, you and him/her must feel close enough to each other. Most of the people don’t like taking advice from random people. You can help people as much close as you are to them. So when you try to help them, you might worsen the situation even more. So I must know where to stop and where to proceed.

I know handling people will start from handling your own feelings. Once you can control your feelings, such as your face state once you are angry or ashamed etc. this will help you not expose your current feelings to others and that gives you more control over the situation. Even slight exposition of feelings ruins everything and distracts others and this needs practice for sure. But why do you need such a skill? You need it because you need to look professional and strong in each pixel of your life. There are few people who can truly understand your sincere feelings once they are all exposed. But others might look over you and cast you out gradually due to their lack of understanding of your feelings. AND also your feelings are your privacy and you have to keep them private enough.

Go, get angry but never sob or sulk or offended quickly. But some improper and imprudent actions must have some consequences otherwise the doer won’t understand the result of his actions. You may want to show it, but show it with the righteous and elegant way. Humans are elegant and they deserve elegant answers.

But sometime it is good to show your human side. Yes not matter what you are, eventually you are human and you will end up being taken down by your feelings somewhere deep inside and once this moment comes, you are utterly free to cry out loud in a place where people won’t hear you.

Or maybe…

Cekip Gidebilmek

Bazen cekip gidebilmeli insan. Bakmadan arkasina. Bakmadan bekleyenlere, beklemeden yalan sevgileri. Her gun insanlar ile ugrasiyoruz. Kimilerinin sorunlarini dinliyoruz, kiminlerin hayatlarina sahit oluyoruz. Kimileri arkamizdan bicakliyor, kimileri yollarimiza seriliyor. Ama ben sen cekip gitmek istiyorsun herseyi, herseyleri geride birakip.

Kalp. Insana verilen en derin uzuvlardan birisi. Kalb oyle gucluki acirsa vucut’un her hucresi ortak oluyor bu aciya. Bir gun dost acitiyor kalbi, bir gun esiniz, bir gun kardes. Ama beyin soruyor bir gun, tum sag kalan bilinci ile “Seni acitani neden seviyorsun?”. Kimi kalpler kendisine geliyor bu beklenmedik soru ile. Kimileri ise razi acimaya, anlamiyor esrari kalbin arkasinda. Kalb aslinda kendisini oraya koyani seviyor, sevmek istiyor. Kalb kendisini acitani degil, kendisin devamli yaninda olani istiyor. En guzel sekilde, en narin sekilde kendisi yapani sevmek istiyor. Onu ariyor kalb. Her carpisinda onun adini zikrediyor. Gercek sahibinin eseri oldugunu cok iyi biliyor.

Ama bizler, kainati icine alabilecek bir varliga, minik seyleri acimazsica buyuterek koyuyoruz. Boguluyor, ama artik bagirmiyor zaten duymayanlara. Biz bilmiyoruz ki ama kalb sesler ile degil hisler ile konusuyor bizimle. Hep goremeyenler dendi, ya bunca duymayanlar? Bunca bagirislari kalbin, duymayanlar?

Benim kalbim? Kurtarilmayi bekliyor Yaratani tarafindan. Yada kalbim bahane, bekleyen benim acimasizlar arasindan….